As Crimson says, do NOT focus on what your wife can do or learn to get her back. Focus on what YOU can do to show her that marriage to you can be better/different than before. That's key to getting her to return.
She may return temporarily b/c of shame as a mother, but I've never seen shame restore a marriage. I do think you being the best dad you can be, helps her to see your value and is a bit of a turn on as well. What are YOU doing to help her feel more financially secure with you? Did you include her with financial decisions?
What were her other complaints even if you don't think they are valid, what did she SAY bothered her? Are any of them valid? IF so, work on those traits to change them and to become the best YOU that you can become.
You want to be a man only a fool would leave...
So You must counter her negative images with positives to undermine her views. Most of that will be done by you changing your behaviors. We call those "180s".
READ THE BOOK(S) THAT FORMS THE BASIS OF THIS SITE...which are "Divorce Busting" and "Divorce Remedy". The 2nd one is really an updated version so if you can only get one, then get the latter.
Unlike rehashing the past and examining childhood issues, which have value but are not considered "Solution based", THIS site focuses on doing whatever it is that will HELP your marriage
and doing less/none of what hurts it.
Many marriage counselors don't practice solution based therapy so ASK them....and go.
And read those books (DO NOT ask your w to read those books--they are for you only. Otherwise she'll think your "changes" are merely tactics to get her back and she won't trust them)
But you can ask her to read something like 'What About the Kids?" Which is a book about what divorce does to kids.
And get a counselor and tell us what you are DOING to change?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
