My old thread had exceeded 100 posts, so I'm starting a new thread. It seems like I've been extremely busy lately, so I apologize - I haven't been posting very often.
Well, it has certainly been a long journey. When I started this journey, my W was on the fast track to D. I think she had a 2 month timeline in mind. FWIW I am 20.5 months into this journey. So if you're new and reading this and don't think you have a lot of time to DB, you may in reality have more time than you realize. For me this started as sprint, turned into a marathon, and it's progressed to be an ultramarathon.
I was certainly given the gift of time. I have chosen to use it as wisely as I can. GAL'ing has become a way of life for me. I have turned to God through this. I have joined three groups at my church, my church softball team, a running group at my church and several other activities. I've been on 3 mission trips. I have joined a couple of cycling groups in my area. I have taken a couple of family vacations and a few weekend trips with my S (minus my W). I have invested a lot of time in my S - our relationship was pretty close before the bomb, but now it's even closer. That's just naming some of the things, not all.
As a result of this, my support group has grown, I've made a lot of new friends and met some amazing people. My relationship with God has flourished.It's helped not only survive this ordeal, it's helped me to thrive. I feel like a new person now. I have the confidence that however this all turns out, I will be OK.
Back on the home front, this has certainly intrigued my W, but as of right now, we're still moving toward a D. We've started the initial settlement negotiations, but it's currently progressing fairly slowly. My W really hasn't made any significant movement back toward me.
