Re OM I didnt explain it v well on here. Had a long discussion with coach about my action - which should be to let it run its course.
However, when W raised OM, one of the things she said was he understands her, in relation to the fact OM left his W earlier this year.
Coach said that a normal reaction would be to rubbish OM etc etc, that she may be expecting that reaction from me. But if I had it in me to champion him instead, and say something along the lines of "its good that you have such a close friend who is helping you through this", then it would be the complete opposite of what W would be expecting me to say. It would show I am not threatened by OM and give the added benefit of strength/self confidence - attractive qualities. It would also make W comfortable talking about him instead of hiding it, which builds trust until eventually she may confide in me instead of or as well as OM.
Does that make sense? Its a long shot when really I want to knock OM into the sea and drown him (and thats being nice). But I can see how it could work. Lets face it, I have nothing to lose when the other option is to say and do nothing.
As I say I am not sure I could say it convincingly enough to mean it without W seeing through it though.
