I went through a lot of the same things you are going through a year ago and since you are just at the beginning of your journey figured I would try to answer one of your questions about getting the ILYBNILWY speech and the chances of getting back together with your wife.
It took about 7 months before things got back to normal for me so remember it will take way longer than you think but hopefully with the changes you are doing she will figure out that being single with kids isn't better than trying to work things out with you.
My advice is to listen, validate and be the best dad you can be, women love that. Try to be her best friend. Have no expectation as far are intimacy, after about 3 months it gets much easier to deal with that. Try really hard to not have resentment because what I found is if you can wait her out she will come around eventually you can work things out, at least that is what happened to me.
Shaky
Shaky,
Thanks for that. I am very hopeful. I almost see this as a chance at a new start for our relationship. I only hope I can get her to see it that way too!
Can I ask how you turned it around? Its very hard to do the best friend thing and not feel any resentment. I am trying every single day though.
We both took our daughter to a medical appointment this morning (nothing serious)and in the discussions with the doctor there were several moments of tenderness between us. I swear for one moment after that she was going to kiss me goodbye, like she had forgotten everything for a split second.
How do you balance doing 180's (when you know you have taken her love for granted) and not looking like you are pursuing her? I am finding this balance difficult.
Having said that, she is calling me and bbm me several times a day. Im hoping this is a good sign for me as well, plus the fact we are still in the same house and bed?
Anyway, I have my first DB phone session at 3pm today. Hoping for a great start / continuation!
