I am so sorry for your sitch. I can't imagine going thru this with my daughters any younger, and defiantly not being pregnant as well. You are a strong woman to be there for your girls.
You may need to read my story if you haven't yet. My H also told me in July when we were visiting him and on vacation, that he loved the OW. They had been working together in Sweden while me and my Ds were here in the US. When he said those words, I thought I was going to die right then and there. I just discovered the affair a couple days earlier. Before we left him, he had broken it off with the OW. Said that PA had only been going on 2 1/2 weeks. The EA I assume had been going on much longer. I know he's possessed right now and not himself, but how do you fall in love with someone after such a short amount of time? I guess that MLCers can justify their feelings.
My husband has felt bad about what he's done, but doesn't want to come home. When he is n town, he stays at an extra apt his boss has. He has made two business trips since he got back mid sept and last I knew planning two more before Christmas. One trip is back to Sweden. Yea.....
He hasn't been talking to me in weeks. Last time I did hear anything of substance from him, he said he was sorry about the affair. He said the affair wasn't the problem, it was a symptom. Well, it's been a huge problem for the rest of us! He won't say what his problem is, maybe he doesn't know. He is text book MLC. Maybe he is seeing that.
He has been so stressed about what has happened, that he got a severe case of shingles before he left Sweden. I feel horrible that he is in so much pain. But, a little part of me says,"good" I want you to be miserable. I really do wish he wasn't in so much pain. I love him and miss him terribly.
He isn't communicating with me, our Ds or our best friends...pretty much the people that know what has been going on. My concern is he's talking to OW. I hope he's not. He said before he wasn't, but things are hard to believe with him.
I wish I had advice for you too. But, I can't seem to get my own life together. I will be saying a prayer for you and your precious girls. Hugs back to you. Keep in touch and let me know how you're doing. :o)
