I guess we're all trying to get answers that only my H knows. They are very confused as well. I've made it a point lately to not discuss H with them. But, when they do ask if I've heard from him, I do give an update. They both FB, email,and call my Ds about different things. Our H friend has been stepping in as a "father figure" for them. He feels like he should and wants to. He loves them too. He has also been helping with things that go wrong around the house. That has bothered me lately. It just makes me so sad. My H should be here doing all those things. I stopped telling my friends about problems with the house. I can honestly say that I was not looking forward to seeing them this past weekend. It's horrible that I felt that way and I am very ashamed. But, once they settled in at the party, we were doing ok. It still didn't feel the same as it used to. I really hate the fact that my H decisions and behavior effect my life in so many ways.
