please any thoughts should I just give up on this??
First of all don't allow anyone to tell you when to give up, the choice to continue DB is up to you. Michelle is clear about this in the book.
Just a thought: You claim to have tried NC before with poor results. You also say that W started responding to your recent texts with brief replies, which is something she wasn't doing at first. If this is the case, it could be seen as baby steps.
Next time she replies, reply back and try to keep her engaged with a few simple questions, nothing big. Nothing about how much you miss her or "When are we going to talk". Think hard about what questions she would feel compelled to reply to. Preferably something that requires more than a yes or no answer. Does she have a pet or a special hobby or interest?
Plan ahead. Figure out when you think she'd be most likely to see your text and take a moment to reply to it before sending your introduction text. Don't send it when there is little chance for response, like when you know she's busy at work or out at a bar. Timing is everything.
If this fails then stop all texting and go NC again and stick to it. Work on GAL and getting her off your mind.
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i cant take this much longer guys and gals....
When YOU decide you've had enough and it's time to give up, go to the "After Last Resort Technique" in the book. This is the ultimatum. It gives her one last chance to keep you. Only do this if you truly are certain about giving up. You are reading the book, right?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
