Your friend means well and she's not walked in your shoes, so she really has not idea what you are going through except from what she sees and hears from you. You will know when you've had enough.

Your h is lashing out at you because you are the only one he can do it to. You are the safe person and yes, he's angry at himself, the world and everything you represent. You know the old saying you hurt the one you love and that's exactly what he's doing right now...I do believe your h feels that you are trying to control and manipulate him into returning home. He doesn't want to feel guilty for what he's doing nor does he want to come home right now. He's having far too much fun over at the ow's house. I'm sure she's stroking his ego all of the time and most likely he's discussing everything that has transpired thus far between the two of you.

Just remember...DB is for you and if you read all of it, you will discover that it's a way to help you cope and communicate w/others. Once you get the hang of it, it will become a part of your day-to-day life.

I'm very sorry that you are still angry and upset w/your h, but you need to find an outlet for these emotions so that your blood pressure/stress level don't go through the roof.

Let go, let God have this matter. Keep your focus on what is important right now...your family and ensuring that you are well taken care of by him through the courts.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.