That is exactly the way I feel when I see my h - who is this stranger. It is not the man I married.
Over a year in and my young kids are starting to show signs that they are upset. (my h thinks I am putting them up to this). But like you it breaks my heart and there is nothing I can say or do to change it.
This is not the man I married. I pray for him but for now I need to protect me and my girls.
Stay positive. Your h is a wackado.
---- M 39 H 35 D5,D4 M 4 T 9 ILYBNILWY 5/18/11 Left 7/11/11 Divorced 12/1/13