"Said that if it is ok she wants to stop and check on us in the evenings. It is nice to see her but sort of strange when she said that coming to the house makes her sick. Is this normal and is this a good sign?? I am sure it to see the kids."
It's called eating cake.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!