Riding the Bull

[25yearsmlc]

You are welcome Vero. Actually, it wasn't one of my 180s but it is something that I should really work on.

Now I know that I've been up for the last few days and perhaps today is the withdrawal I'm suffering but I feel a bit blue. This compounded by the fact that W just sent me a text asking me if she could bring a friend over at my house to practice on Thursday morning.
I know that in the past (it seems like years ago) I had told her she could even come around if she needed the space for her singing lessons since I have the piano at the house, but I'm not really feeling comfortable with having someone who might actually be a mate of OM practicing in my house. She didn't say who so I imagine it's someone I don't know and frankly I want nothing to do with her new "friends" at the moment.
I'm thinking of simply replying with the following:

"Sorry W, but I don't feel comfortable with this so I'd rather not. Thanks for understanding."

What do you think?

Another thing is that on Thursday morning we were supposed to go to immigration again. I wonder if she's forgotten. It'll also be my 47th bday. Sigh!!!

The Immigration appointment is one thing,

but the fear that it "COULD be a person who KNOWS OM" and therefore is...what? Inherently bad?? So you'll withhold what you previously promised,

seems like 2 things to me.

1) A way of looking petty and unreliably moody, AND 2) a blown chance to look good in front of her new peeps.

If i were you, and ANY "mates of OM" were to come over to my home

I'd make the most of that opportunity to be the better choice.

I'd want w's new friends to stare and her, and implicity ask her, "Why leave THIS MAN??"

How can you "win" or make any points with her, by saying "no"?

Show her new peeps that you're a great father and radiate your inner positivity, upbeat attitude about life, intelligent interest in many things, (fake it if you have to) and friendly warm personality...

In sum, be a man only a fool would leave.

Let her friends see that too.