Thanks, I have been focusing on being the "old me" which is all the 180's I need to be doing. When I'm unsure I ask myself what I would have done back then and as long as it doesn't go agains a DB principle/rule and passes the "will this get me closer or further away from my goal?" test then I go ahead and do it. If I have any doubt I don't do it.
The "old me" is the me I had worked hard to become and I let the stress that developed after her and the kids moved in cause me to backslide.
She said that me not listening irritates her so the emotion was irritation. What was very difficult was that I was late for work, there were customers waiting, and she was stressed from not sleeping well. So it looked like it was going to get tempers flaring quickly and I had to diffuse as fast and as best as I could so that I didn't lose my cool and so that I could get into work.
She was sick again yesterday and we had another decent morning. Things are messed up right now b/c of the hurricane and not having power all night. I'm sticking to my 180's and even when I told her that we had power back at home after talking to a neighbor she said she isn't sure she's going to stay at home tonight. This was in text and I immediately got upset and could feel my temper rising, so I didn't respond and we haven't texted or talked since she sent me that text.
“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln
