Keep breathing...

[mamabird]

Well, it does help to make light of these situations I guess and comforting to know that our reactions aren't out of whack. I am so caught up in my own feeling bad and neglected that I often forget that my H is dealing with his own demons too.

Breakdown, I can only hope that my H follows in your footsteps and is somehow able to shed the years of negative imprinting. Even to see him try or to admit his shortcomings would be a big step, and maybe he will be ready to take that step in the next few months. I did get the feeling from the communications that I intercepted that he is really trying to convince himself that he's better off without me, and unfortunately not many of his friends told him that he had a part in it too. He is (or was) quite invested in playing the role of "victim". (maybe he'll get that part in our TV movie, ha ha)