RH, Just catching up with your sitch and want to say that you are far from weak. All of us who have gone the extra mile to help our MLC spouses and through the process we have become the stronger person. Keep your heart soft and know that we will make it through.
I do want to say that i admire your son very much for standing up to his dad, that took tremendous courage and speaks well of you and your H.
One aspect of your sitch that i am trying to learn from is the boundaries you are setting and the balance you are trying to reach to keep your sanity. I know i pay a tremendous emotional price every time i spend time with my W especially when the time spent has been encouraging. I respect the boundaries you have set and even thought your H did not agree with your statement "And I said, "and you will wish it was you?" he will be wishing it was him if he doesn't wake up soon...
Be positive and continue to do the things that bring you peace (biking...)
I would rather feel pain then never feel at all... Separated 3/2012 T 34 yrs M 27 yrs