I have come to the conclusion and my W has confirmed it that she is going through a MLC (40 last December).
Take a look at the MLC forum here and go through the stickies at the top. There's a lot of helpful info there. If she is going through MLC, then you've got a long, rough road ahead. MLC can take years to resolve. There is little you can do except give her time and space and concentrate on your own happiness. That's the detachment Cadet mentioned- detach from the roller coaster that is your MLC wife and work on yourself. Get a life- get back into old hobbies, pick up new ones, get back in shape, reach out to old friends, make new ones. Work on YOU.
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I have read most of DR and am currently working on the last resort strategy.
Almost impossible to do if you're under the same roof and have a kid. I wouldn't go there yet, just work on detaching, doing 180's on your faults and maybe trying to show her love using techniques from the 5 Love Languages. If she moves out then you can pursue the LRT then.
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I have stopped doing those things though because she continues to tell me that she is "not ready to work on our marriage at ths time".
Good, leave those things behind for now and do not talk about the M AT ALL. If your W wants to discuss it then that's fine, but don't initiate it yourself.
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Funny thing is we have talked more since June about all kinds of things than we have in the last two years.
That's a good sign. Keep it up, try to be a good friend to her.
