Here we go again...

[someguy1233]

Nothing, do nothing. You found it because you were snooping. You shouldn't have been snooping. If you say anything about it she'll know you were snooping and she will know you don't trust her. It will be a huge setback. Just forget it. So he sent her a picture, you don't know what her reaction was. She may have thought "gross, why did he send this to me?" Men like women to send half-naked pictures to them. Women do not like men to send half-naked pictures to them. But men think women like it because men do. Mars and Venus.

It was a picture that she emailed her self. Most likely it was received as a text message and she emailed it and filed it away. She was clearly saving it rather than deleting it.

Does she read books? If so you might think about getting her The Happiness Trap. It's an interesting book that talks about the whole concept of how Hollywood and society have totally skewed our views on what happiness and other emotions are. Happiness is one of many emotions we experience throughout the day. The book teaches that we can experience these emotions regardless of what they are without letting them change our worldview, and that we should allow all emotions rather than labeling some "good" and others "bad" and trying to embrace good ones while rejecting bad ones. Chasing happiness is EXACTLY what makes people unhappy. Your W's confusion is a good thing, it points to her understanding that leaving is probably not going to bring the "happiness" she thinks she wants.

Thanks, I'll look into this book.

And again!! Talking about the future, with you and S. This is all really fantastic!! I think you're so convinced there's no future that you're afraid to see all these steps, but man, from someone outside your sitch these all add up to huge progress!

Thanks, AS. I really appreciate your post. I guess I see the signs as positive, but I'm not trying to get my hopes up. She seems to swing in her thoughts/opinions so fast that I can't keep up.