When you started this thread, I didn't know how to respond. Then on my way home from work I was thinking about it your sitch and remembered something that happened with me and my H similar to you and your H's blow up/fall out.
It was maybe July. I totally lost it with H, my anger was just spewing from me like it never had before. It was awful actually. I suggested a physical blow would be much easier to get over than the pain I was feeling since this all started. The pain from a physical blow would heal a lot fast then the pain that was constant in my life at that time. Anyway, H said that he was finished, that being at OW's was better than being with me. That he was seeing a lawyer and moving the rest of his stuff out of the house. I was so upset that I took everything and piled it into a corner. I think I took it all down so that I could get used to the lower lever of our house without all his stuff. Then about an hour later put it all back. Thought if H wanted to move it out H could move it. I thought for sure it was OVER!
The next day I get a call from H, I was hesitant to answer the phone, but did anyway. In talking with H it was like everything was fine again. H was very pleasant we talked a little bit about what happened and that was the end of it. I was stunned and thankful. I do beleive that was my last "flip out" episode with H, also. These "flip out" episodes were what was keeping H from believing things had changed or were going to change. But they did change. I have learned to sit with those feelings at least for a day or longer, as suggested by everyone here, and it does help.
I don't know what I'm trying to get at here, but since then I have moved forward and things slowly changed for the better.
