The crack in my perfect life...

[2chiquitos]

About OW. I know he still talks to her every once in a while but sees her even less than that. He can't seem to shake her off. And I know he contacts her so it's not just her calling.

There are signs I've seen these past 6mos that have let me know he is more himself than before. One of the veterans said, they will first reach out to the dog (and he did) then the kids (and he did) and then you. Everyone else is before you. Sad but it's because he will know he damaged you the most.

You need to stay away from him. He has no interest in coming back right now. And that's ok because feelings change. He can so no today but maybe in time you can confuse him about his decision.

H recently told me, I miss you guys when I'm not here. I think about you guys all the time. You're always in my thoughts. He also said, I wake up every morning and wonder if I will regret my decision.

I'm sure these feelings were hidden when the sitch was really bad but once the winds died down, he could see clearly what he was missing out on.

My H also said and still says, it's not about OW. It's about the problems we had. Pfff. Whatever. I said, you betrayed me with her. You broke my trust with her. What happened before her is about us but you involved her in our problems so it is about her now!