SB, I'm so sorry you had to go through that and that the kids had to be a part of it.

I think WAS's usually talk in absolutes. They're trying to convince themselves as well as the LBS's. If they can rewrite their history and say they were never happy, it's easier for them to move on.

If they actually think about it and realize that things were good and now there are problems, it might get them to realize that that could happen with the OW/OM in the future too.

They're just trying to escape and run away from all their problems.

Instead of your H trying to work on his/the M's issues, he's just hoping that he'll magically be happier when the baby is born. I'm sure he hasn't thought about how he's going to deal with that and the OW at the same time.

Again, I'm so sorry that he's putting you through all this. Stay strong and focus on yourself and your kids. Your H has to fight his own inner battles right now.

M36 XH34
M-5 T7
4/11 H confused
5/11 ILYB
6/11 OW discovered
7/11 I move out, OW over
5/12-OW2,done->new EA, but H wont file
9/12 H "best bf ever" to EA/OW3
3/13 H/OW break up
H files 4/13
D 6/18/13