Believe nothing she says and only 50% of what she does. She's confused and is talking off the wall. She doesn't want you to tell your family because she doesn't want to look bad in their eyes. Notice how she's told everyone what she's doing? She's put a different spin on things w/her family and friends and you don't have any idea what she's told them as to why she wants a divorce.
She's really not in the real world right now and her fantasy may see the light of day a bit when she realizes that you aren't handing the house over to her. As for the house, she can buy you out or it can be sold and split the proceeds in half.
For now, go w/your gut instint. She's telling you what she thinks you want to hear.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
