MKB, hope you had a good night's rest. My town didn't have a lot of storm damage, but the state overall was impacted in a huge way. Anger might also be an expression of fear--fear of getting close to you, fear of the future, fear of reliving the past. Identify the triggers of his anger (and your own.) I think awareness is your best friend. Once you are aware, you can stop the negative exchanges before they happen.