Sweetbriar
I've been thinking of you all day and wondering how you're doing. You're experiencing a terrible storm in more ways than one.

I wish I was posting at the time that I had that blow out with OW n H but I was only reading the books at the time. The advice you've been given (NC) is the best advice you can get.

If I could go back then I would've turned off my cell for my sanity. Everytime I got a text I would cringe.

Today, my relationship w H is so much better than a year ago when all this happened. He was a total A$$h-le last year and did and said things that were NOT him. He says he thinks back at that time and he was not himself.

Have you ever been depressed. Maybe post partum depression? You say and do things that are totally out of character. I was willing to give up my kids and runaway! The same holds true for WAS. He is experiencing a depression and OW is his drug. He won't let her go because she pumps him up. Keep this info to yourself because it will help you later.

And no, H would've NEVER left S4 in the car like that before all this and much less now. His priorities were all screwed up.


M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017