Were you overly Beta in your marriage? If not, then no. Being more Alpha will not help. If yes, then just gradually try to step up the the plate. You're in no position to take the reins now!
Please explain.
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Maybe you disagree with the idea that some women, maybe even the majority of women, prefer a man with a more alpha personality who takes the lead. If so, that's ok, since I don't believe there are any reliable statistics on this. James already indicated he was overly beta, so it seems working to man up may be beneficial for his marriage, but that's for him to decide.
"You're in no position to take the reins now!" means that I believe because his M is on shaky ground, it would be best to proceed carefully with any Alpha Man Plan. Clear enough?
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
