Alright, I've never been through this before so I don't know just what has to happen for police, judge, etc to believe. I know she doesn't want to go to a shelter b/c she'll lose custody of her middle child. I also KNOW that it's her problem.

I am also trying to look at it in a positive light. We haven't been fighting and the longer she stays here the more she can see my 180's.

I see what you mean about proof. At this point I'm sure they'd ask why she took so long to report being pushed.

Ok, so she isn't a WAS but I told her I was sorry and didn't really want her to leave, that I didn't actually want to break up with her, so it's no longer my wish. So what now?

Ok, that makes more sense about LET & 180's. Right now I've been focusing big time on 180's. Yes, this weekend was the start but I'm keeping focused on the 180's. Even tonight sitting here after the  power went out. What I'm attempting to do is be nice, friendly, and helpful to be that guy she remembers but I'm doing it in a way where I'm not focused on an R, rather that it's the guy I want to be and it'll be her lose if she leaves me.

I'm not doing MMSLP style stuff right now. I wanted to validate her feelings without agreeing with her which is why I said, "I'm sorry you feel like I don't listen". I didn't agree that I don't listen but I recognized that's how she felt at the moment. One of the DB rules is don't argue about how they feel, so I didn't.

Power is out due to the storm. She's trying to decide if she needs to stay with family so the baby can stay warm or if they'll be ok here. I'm not arguing with her or giving her a hard time even though I want her to stay. I'm just acknowledging that she has to do what's best for the baby, whatever that is.

So maybe I worded it wrong when I said I gave her space for the weekend. I'm giving her space whenever she seeks it. I'm just enjoying being with her when she's willing to be around me.

“People are just as happy as they make up their minds to be.” Abraham Lincoln