I just received this newsletter in my email today and thought that I would share it with you. Maybe this will help you out too.
Thought this might help you out too.
The Ground Rules For Living
1. Be positive. The words you speak and the thoughts you accept determine your point of view. You then act consistent with your point of view and life makes your point of view come true. If you want a life that works, don't speak negatively or accept negative thoughts about yourself, other people or your life. Don't speak or think negatively unless you want your negative point of view to come true.
2. Accept yourself. You are the way you are whether you like it or not. Until you make peace with the way you are, you will never make peace with life. Accept every aspect of yourself, particularly the aspects that you don't like. Allow yourself to experience the hurt and the feelings of being worthless and not good enough. Allow yourself to be human. See the love and the beauty that you are, just the way that you are.
3. Let go. When you resist the way life is, you get upset and lose your ability to see what needs to be done. You destroy love and tend to make your situation worse. To restore effectiveness and peace of mind, let go of your demands for how life should be and make peace with the way life is. Be willing to experience all the hurt and the emotion that your circumstances reactivate. Then do whatever you need to do.
4. Express your love. To have love, open your heart and give love. Accept and appreciate people just the way they are. Be like a child. See the love and beauty in everyone. As you express your love for people, people will naturally express their love for you.
5. Accept full responsibility for your life. When you see your 100 % responsibility for what happens around you, you get your power back. Others may also be responsible, but when you blame them, you give them your power. You become a victim and unable to take action. Accepting responsibility allows you to take charge of your life.
6. Forgive yourself. At the moment you did whatever you did, you saw life in a very particular way. If you were wiser and more aware, you could have acted differently, but you weren't. You only knew what you knew. Forgive yourself for not being wiser and more aware. Forgive yourself for acting consistent with your limited awareness. Notice that you did the very best you could with the limited equipment that you had at the time.
7. Handle what doesn't work. When an aspect of your life doesn't work, you get upset and close down. You lose your aliveness and peace of mind. Unworkability exists only because you tolerate it. List all the items in your life that don't work and handle each one as fast as you can. Clean up your environment, your relationships, your health and your finances. Handle every aspect of your life that doesn't work.
8. Let go of resentment. Forgiveness is not for the other person. It's for you. When you resent, a part of you dies inside. You become bitter and lose your ability to love. Resentments are a subconscious tool we use to avoid hurt. Once you are willing to feel your hurt, you no longer need to resent. You can then forgive. Forgive the person for not being wiser and more aware. Forgive the person for acting consistent with his or her limited ability.
9. Don't overspend. Upsets about money seem to be due to a lack of income, but this is seldom the case. Most people in the world would love to have your level of income. Upsets about money are almost always due to overspending. When spending exceeds your income, you can expect to get upset. To create a life of prosperity, make sure you spend less than you make.
10. Find a dream to go for. When you have a dream to go for, life becomes an exciting adventure. You have direction and a reason for living. You add spice to your life. If you don't have a dream to go for, get one as fast as you can. Find your dreams and go full speed to make them come true.
11. Serve. Have your life be about more than you. When you put focus on yourself, upsets and problems grow. When you focus on serving others, upsets and problems dissolve. Find something more important than you and throw yourself into it. Have your life be about contributing.
12. Experience your spirituality. Love is your life force. The source of love is God. Create a relationship with God and allow yourself to be guided. Be still and listen. Pray and trust your intuition. Find what allows you experience the presence of God and do it often. Give your life to God and learn to love.
Have a good day and hang in there. Your husband needs time to see the new you and the changes that you have made. He has to trust that you are not going to fall back into the old pattern. Just stay confident in yourself. Things will work out, but it will be in God's timing and not ours.
