"W and I are role models" for everyone else's R. A "jinxing" statement she made a week or two before the BD. Then again, maybe we truly can be. Show others to not give up, to work through the pain, and see what happens. At least I know I am (thankful for everyone's support here - cannot say that enough). Ending thought for now. I can remain being the great "fixer" that I am. I simply need to "fix" W by stepping back and allowing her to "fix" herself. By not doing so I have prevented her from doing good work for herself.
Absolutely to all of that ^^^.
As for feeling weird about the A, well, it goes with the territory. Most likely, some anger will hit you eventually. Happened to me even when I thought that I had completely forgiven W. Still does on occasion. Just be prepared for that.
Forgiveness is the key though.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
