Ahh yes. The truth is not always pretty! But once again I thank you for your honest opinion and truth, 25yearsmlc.
I do have expectations, and I'd like to change that. I'm working on it! Admittedly I'm very impatient at times, I get weak and a little annoyed that he's not reciprocating. Ugh it's like lesson after lesson! Luckily he had no idea I felt that way. And yes, a week and a half is almost no time at all. Sigh.
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Did you look up Retrovaille the marriage retreat weekend? Did you look up Essential Experience for an individual program YOU can attend?
I did look up both. The Retrovaille I gather is for both people, right? So at this point I'm solo - if he comes back, maybe he'd be open to it. I saw the EE is in PA. I'd like to go to that alone, but finances being what they are, I'd like to find one local if possible.
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Begin actually DBing, consistently, and GAL ASAP and then tell us specifically what you mean by setting a boundary. Then we'll be able to help better.
Just curious, were you married before? Was he? IF so, what happened in those marriages?
Do either of you want or have children?
I'm happy to say at the least I am GAL - I've made consistent plans at least 3-4 nights per week last week and this week. Tonight I'm going to meet up with some women in my area. Tomorrow and Wed I'm booked too.
Neither of us were married before. We married kind of late, but felt it was right. I still do, despite all of the craziness right now.
One other positive note I'd like to end on: he did reach out again earlier, so see if I wanted to hold our reptile again. I was happy about it, and it was a nice few minutes, and the most we've spoken in over a week. I took it for what it was, (I don't know what it was!) and went back to work.
