Haha joke on me. I ordered the DR book. Went to the post office and it wasn't there. Why? Because my husband had gone to post office earlier today. UGH! He didn't say anything, so I don't know if he opened the box or not.
He said divorce last night. He wants one. I said I would fight for this marriage. Talked again over the same issues he has about the mistakes over the past 26 years. Same argument Me wanting more time with him, he wanting more intimacy. Ten months since this started for coming to this conclusion. Me a month in a half. If I could take back every rebuff I would. If I could take back every threat I would. I would I would I would......
I'm thinking about you, Crying out loud. This is hard, but you can do it. Read here-- they rewrite history and just bring up your faults. Don't believe it. Everybody makes relationship mistakes.
Just tell that you don't want to sell the house and that you're not going to make any decision until speaking with a L.
He's going to rant at you, but before he does, look at him in the eye and tell him that you have a right to not want to sell the house as much as he has a right to want to. And that you will not be talked to like that any longer. So him the strong side of you.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
If the time comes and you need to sell the house, do it after the divorce, not before. If you can somehow manage to refinance and keep the home, then do it. Whatever you decide to do about the home...it can be stipulated in the divorce decree.
I agree w/Mr. Bond, he's going to be one furious man, but at this point, you need to advise him that you aren't going to be disrepected and until he can speak to you in a calmer tone, you will not discuss it w/him. He may not respect you right now, but he will later on if you stick to your boundaries.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
