The crack in my perfect life...

[labug]

I just read your entire thread.

There's a lot going on and it seems H is blaming you for his agreeing to do things he later regretted. You can't take responsibility for that, don't.

But step back now and let him deal with his life. I know Acc mentioned it a couple of times and I will reinforce, look into counseling for you and your daughters with a good family therapist. There's a book called Depression Fallout which might be helpful to you (I know, when do you have time to read?)

I also want to mention his assertion that you didn't work for all these years-has he ever priced child care, especially quality child care? Has he taken responsibility for caring for the children for any significant amount of time? Is he getting visitation with them now?

I noticed you mentioned at one point that he "helped" with the children. Isn't taking care of your children one of the roles of a father?

But even with all that, you can only work on you.

Who do you want to be in the eyes of your children?

Work toward that.

Have as little contact with him as you can manage, give both of you a chance to calm down and get over the anger. What's happening between you right now isn't good for anyone, especially the children.

Take the high road.