Time for an Introduction...and Thanks

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Thank you MK and Arsene,
For you MK to read through my entire thread is so appreciated. I know I ramble at times. It just seems I have so much to get out!

Knowing my H as I do he's probably of the mindset that since there is no "official" settlement in place he's going to finesse things as he can. He knows I'm angry and is staying away. I don't want to have to act like nothings wrong just to get him to pick up S for practice or drop him off on Sunday's at the time HE came up with.

You know, I think/thought the same thing. Why would a NORMAL 20 something y/o want a man who is giving most of his income to his "old" family, who up until recently spent 90% of his weekend and 100% of his holidays away from her? I know it's not my problem but it's so darn confusing.

I would LOVE to get my 18 y/o over there for just a day. I don't think she would have any problem living up to her full "brat mode" if necessary and would definitely ask some pointed questions. She, however, reiterated yesterday that she has no desire to EVER see where her dad is living or spending time with.

I did put a GAL "idea" into H's mind when he picked up S on Saturday. I had been invted to a friend's Halloween party and although I knew if I ended up going I would not be spending the night I made sure my usual overnight tote (that H is very familiar with) along with my makeup bag were front and center next to the door when he came. I also made sure some of my costume choices were kind of spilling out of the top of the bag. Figured that would give him something to think about on the drive to GF.

Back to the whole "gift of time thing"...Thank you for reminding me. It's only been 3 weeks since I've really shut down on him. I know it's not going to take overnight for him to even begin to see the repercussions of his actions. One step at a time.

Thank you both for putting things in perspective for me. Sunday nights are always difficult for me. Even more so now when S comes home and I know where he's been. My mind gets the best of me and I think about whe a great time the 3 of them must be having. I know logically that's not the case.