If the time comes and you need to sell the house, do it after the divorce, not before. If you can somehow manage to refinance and keep the home, then do it. Whatever you decide to do about the home...it can be stipulated in the divorce decree.
I agree w/Mr. Bond, he's going to be one furious man, but at this point, you need to advise him that you aren't going to be disrepected and until he can speak to you in a calmer tone, you will not discuss it w/him. He may not respect you right now, but he will later on if you stick to your boundaries.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
