Key, or not to key

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TJP,
As a rule on the forum, we stick to one thread when posting so that you, as well as the readers can follow your situation.

To your mlcing h, it looks like you deliberately changed the lock while he was gone. Unfortunately, no matter how many times you tell him that you changed it because it was sticking, he will not believe you. Why? Because he is paranoid and thinks you are keeping from him from having free access to the home whenever he wants. No matter why you changed the lock, he needs to face the consquences of his actions and boy, it's going to hurt like heck for him not to be able to do whatever he wants.

So, I'll respond to your question here. No, I wouldn't give him a key. Why, should he have access to come and go whenever he wants when he doesn't live there any longer? Let me ask you this...did he give you a key to where he's living? If he continues to ask about a key, you might want to point out that you don't have one to his new residence and that you would be more than willing to give him a key when he gives you one to his new residence. That should back him up a bit.

I also want to remind you that once you set boundaries, you need to follow through. You told him no about the key, so stick to your decision. When you begin to waffle, he will then no that he can threaten, bully or even sweet talk you into backing down on any boundary you put in place.