Stander, you make a strong point. I think was feeling weak in the moment. I Really appreciate the support! I'am not feeling strong today at all. Our therapist told me to just leave w alone, not to lean in at all, give space and only talk about R in therapy. That's my plan.
You're quite welcome! I agree with your therapist and RegretfulLA, table all R talks. It's one of the DB tips too:
20. All questions about marriage should be put on hold, until your spouse wants to talk about it (which may be a while).
You might consider giving MC a rest too. IC is fine, but it doesn't sound like the MC is going anywhere. Once we quit going to MC I totally dropped all R talk and things settled down a lot after that.
