JAG, that’s heavy duty. I am sure it was extremely demanding and not for the faint of heart. 25, there’s a great sense of comfort having you and the others behind me. I KNOW I am good hands and even though you dont ask for it, I hope my gratitude is evident.
Yes, I see what you’re getting at in regards to going out. GAL is about doing things without having my focus on W. I had another good time last night. There were several Afghanistan Marine Vets at the party. What amazing stories, I have tremendous respect for them. When I am in those situations I make sure never to ask them dumb questions that could be considered disrespectful.
The kids and I are going to carve our pumpkins today before I take them back to W’s apartment. I might end up going over to one of my friends houses this evening. Have a good day my friends. I wish nothing but the best for all of you.
I wouldn't. Not now anyways. I think it sends the wrong message after you telling your W you were living your life as a married man. She might not have believed you but at least she can't prove you lied and it got her thinking. This would send her off and I don't see why you'd want to do that at this point when you seem to be making some kind of progress.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
Post pictures of you having clean fun with lots of friends or with your kid. Show her that you are happy and the kind of man she might want to be with. Do you think she'd want to be with a man who has two women with their arms around him?
I don't think so mate. It would hurt her and not serve your cause.
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
I feel more alive than I have in A LONG time, it’s such a great feeling. My mindset has really changed a lot over the last couple weeks and I've spent a lot less time feeling hurt or sorry for myself. The focus on W has been reduced dramatically. I am doing so much better letting go, it’s the coolest thing. I am slowly coming to terms with what’s happened with W and I. I am “ok” with things right now. I wish I was at this point a couple months ago but everyone has a different timeline and this is a process I needed to go through.
Another great night last night. My self-confidence has improved, I am slowly starting to see the value of myself so much more. Our old marriage seriously took a toll on me. It was very damaging. I am moving forward and I will continue to do things to keep myself busy. I don’t really have much to report but that’s just fine.
nothing to report is sometimes the best news ever rough. Glad to hear your update. :-)
TPS Me: 44 H: 42 M14 T17 S10 D7 10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month 21/04/12 H is 'DONE' 04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010) July '14 H ends affair May '15 H moves back home
Rough, I can really relate to your post. You stop posting about every little interaction with your w, because it just doesn't matter that much anymore. You know you will be happy no matter what happens. I still struggle with the kids, and worrying about them through all of this. I suppose I will always worry though, that is part of what makes a good parent.
Me 37/W 32 S 5 D 4 ILYBNILWY 5/12 Sep 8/12 Starting to find myself 11/12 on
Thanks Bustingout and Eyesopen- I know EXACTLY what you mean about the kids. I don’t even want to write about it right now because it will really get to me. Your absolutely right about the “what makes us a good parents” comment. That part is ingrained in me, you can’t shake it out of me. I am really glad you’re doing well detaching.
One of my GAL pictures has myself and two women with their arms around me. Inappropriate or ok to post?
No. What Arsene said.
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
I feel more alive than I have in A LONG time, it’s such a great feeling. My mindset has really changed a lot over the last couple weeks and I've spent a lot less time feeling hurt or sorry for myself. The focus on W has been reduced dramatically. I am doing so much better letting go, it’s the coolest thing. I am slowly coming to terms with what’s happened with W and I. I am “ok” with things right now. I wish I was at this point a couple months ago but everyone has a different timeline and this is a process I needed to go through.
Another great night last night. My self-confidence has improved, I am slowly starting to see the value of myself so much more. Our old marriage seriously took a toll on me. It was very damaging. I am moving forward and I will continue to do things to keep myself busy. I don’t really have much to report but that’s just fine.
My favorite post by you yet Rough... This foxhole is getting good at what we're doing!
