He repeats himself because he's trying to convince himself that the storyline is true. Once you're well outside of the narrative and his life still svcks (in his assessment) he'll have no choice but see that his life and choices are his and his alone, as is his happiness. You need to close this chapter.
Don't text. Don't engage.
With the caveat that I don't have kids so probably shouldn't say anything about it (but I do have a terrific relationship with my adult stepD and through my actions preserved her relationship with her father), put a schedule in place. Love your kids and let them navigate their relationship with their father. Say only and only when need be, that he loves them very much. If asked why he left or where he is, refer them to their father.
Your family and friends are right. Today, at this moment, you need to move on. You do not have the conditions necessary at this time to forge a relationship with your husband. You might have them in the future, but for now you do not.
Don't let yesterday's mistakes ruin your day. You cannot unring a bell, and we get nowhere if we don't look forward.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
