AS thanks for the info re your S. Don't think I cld stretch to 5 grand but I agree with ur method and will explore this with W.
It wld be difficult for me to have S during the week, but if poss I wld like him friday night into monday morning as keeping the house the same is a great idea. I have decided I won't offer to help her get house ready, move etc. For me that is up to her to do. What I will do is look after S why she gets organised.
Re W moods thanks. I am getting better but she gets so personal! But I guess that's all part of the script.
Messed my db coach session up cos of the clocks going back in the uk!!!! Re scheduled for tomorrow.
but I agree with ur method and will explore this with W.