Was this them the whole time ??? My 2nd thread

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Sunny,
Solo Partner is an excellent book and you'll discover the "dance" that you both participate in, i.e., the distancer/pursuer one. You will need to learn how to remain steady when she is doing the "dance" w/you. When she distances, do not pursue her. She needs to feel the "loss" of your company and attention in order to come back around once again. It's very similiar to the moth and the attraction of a candle.

Enjoy your time away and I hope that you are able to talk to your son every day. I wouldn't worry to much about her being angry...she'll get over it in due time. It's her way of punishing you and you do not want to fall into that little guilty trap.

Look forward to hearing how your time away has been. Enjoy!

Been back in home since Thursday man I never had a week of my life EVER go so fast – it doesn’t even feel like I went away LOL

I miss my son something awful he was supposed to be home tomorrow but cuz of the hurricane they canceled the flight now I won’t see him till Friday – darn it – I can’t believe how much I miss my boy – it’s really getting to me – at night I swear I hear him calling my name to wake me up. God I sound like a wimp huh.

I asked my wife to have my son call me every day – I guess that was to much to ask I haven’t spoken to him since Friday – I don’t understand her still being this hostile toward me after 3 weeks.

I realize I can live without her as much as I want to keep my family together – I don’t think I can ever recover from all the hate and anger she has been spewing and disinviting me to the ceremony after I spent $500 on a ticket and rent a car is ridiculous I hate that I let her bully me like that again. My therapist says she feels like I bullied her for so long I deserve it –

I am trying to get the house organized while she is away I have cleaned out a bunch of junk – I found a recording she gave me after we were dating a year – and man I listened to it – she did love me – a lot -- I started to believe she never did –

So many people in my life are calling and texting me about all the pictures she is posting on FB but I haven’t gone on FB and I have no intention of doing so – I don’t need anymore [censored] to be upset about – it really seems like the MLCer has this need to punish and hurt the LBS I don’t get that part of it.

I have to pick them up at the airport on Friday I can not wait to see my boy – I still love my wife too – but I am not excited about seeing her – I don’t know what it is going to be like no expectations – right – that’s what I gotta do AND stop trying to understand it as well – yes yes it is really important for me to stop trying to get my head around it – cuz there doesn’t have to be a reason – anyway

Got myself a NICE tan and believe it or not I didn’t gain any weight on vacation – my workouts were so much more intense there – prolly cuz I had all day to work out and didn’t have to get anywhere afterwoods – but I am proud of myself for sticking to the gym, work has been busy, God is blessing me with so much I am truly blessed and highly favored. I have no reason to feel sad and lonely – what the hell is wrong with my brain !!

Thanks

Sunny