Don't apologize to your H or his OW. Apologize to yourself. Forgive yourself for slipping. You are human and going through a monumentally difficult time. You want to be heard, you want him to know. The fact is, right now, he doesn't care. I'm sorry that is harsh.
No court will label you as crazy. They will look at what your husband chose to do...abandon his family while his wife is pregnant...and see it for what it is, which is a hateful and irresponsible thing. Whether he is MLC or just an a$$hole, he must be responsible for his choices and his family. The court will see that he is. And at some point fate will intervene. You might not be there to see it, but anybody who does what he did will not sail easily through life. But it is not your problem.
There is much peace in acceptance. Accept what is happening at the moment and plan your future without your H. He might pull his head out of his butt at some point, but for now you need to give him enough time and space to self destruct. Do not interfere. Do not so much as look in that direction.
Make abundantly certain that you and your kids have enough financial support to be OK. Nail his b@lls to the wall if need be. Do not make it easy for him as some sort of ill conceived DBing technique. Take care of yourself and your kids.
You will be OK.
me 45 H 46 T 5 M 2.5 BD Sept 6 2011 OW Sept 8 2011 Threw him out Sept 8 2011
