Pretty sad. We live in a world where everything is disposable...if you don't like it, throw it away and get a new one! It's a real shame that marriage is thought of the same way. To me, it's one of those things that continues to cycle for the worst. My parents both got multiple Ds and that's how I've been taught about M, so how do I even have a shot at having a healthy M?! And if I follow in my parents' footsteps, I'm showing my kids that and it just keeps cycling and getting worse.
Originally Posted By: RegretfulLA
He's just soaking it all up and giving nothing back.
Is that why you are doing the things you are doing though? To get a response? I'd take a hard look at those things where that is the case and make an effort to stop them. You just risk building resentment.
With that said, I'm also reminded of something we talked about Sat at a retrouv post session. Commitment is a choice you make and it should be made without conditions. Your spouse's level of commitment does not come into play here. I think the same thing can be said for love, forgiveness, & trust. Don't hold your choices hostage waiting to see your H's choices.
