Good stuff from veroprado, listen to someone that's been there and back off!
Originally Posted By: Sweetbriar
Now, I feel like I should give up. I just dont know after all he said tonight that I have any chance. Here I sit, pregnant, at home and he is there with OW....happy and Im sure laughing and watching the game.
I guarantee you he was not laughing it up watching the game, he was stewing well into the next day I'm sure. OK, so you know what you did was wrong. But I'm not clear on if you know why it was wrong. Right now he is trying to convince himself that you are crazy, neurotic and controlling. He's building a case against you in his mind. When you follow through with DB'ing, it gets harder and harder for him to convince himself of his case and eventually he has to drop the case and see you for who you really are. But if you drive by OW's house and encourage him to get in a fight (in short- act crazy, neurotic and controlling), you validate his case. You tell him he's right.
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I am so sad. I need advice...did I totally ruin it all now?
No, it's never too late. Was it a setback? Oh yes indeed. But read Denver's threads, he had a very similar blowup with his W when he confronted OM in her house and they ended up reconciling.
