I noticed during the summer that H seemed to be making more of an attempt with the boys. Then at the end of August, he tells me how he knew he was angry months ago and that he was trying to be better with the boys.
I think the fact that our kids are so young has helped in many ways. He didn't need to explain anything to them, or have any big talks. He just needed to spend time with them and love them, which he has done and continues to do.
I'm guessing since your kids are older, your H may be afraid to face them. I'm thinking they may not exactly be DBing him...
That is very good news if he shows interest in the house. Home repairs are a good thing! Baby steps...
Very glad to hear about your work. Idle time is a bad thing! Hope the next few days serve as a much needed distraction for you.
And if it makes you feel any better, my H had on his cranky pants too today.
I'm so over the cranky pants, aren't you?
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
Tvs, you always include something in your post to make me laugh! I like that!
GB, I agree with everything tvs said. I do think the home repair interest is telling. So far my H only talks about home repair. Lol!
So glad you had some work. Sitting thinking about the sitch svcks. I've had so much experience in it, I should know!!!
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
Thanks guys. I'm glad for the work. Its good not to think about Crankypants all the time and to be busy.
I've got an interview next week for a job I'd really like to get so things are looking up again. I felt like I hit rock bottom a few months back, but just kept at it, better things are around the corner!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
GALbaby, what do you have planned for the weekend?
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
Working all weekend RH. Huge 12 hour days at a big car racing event here where I live. Never done this type of work before, enjoying it but finding it challenging. Got great team working under me and they are helping me through. Getting home exhausted and falling into bed. Haven't seen H. We are ships passing in the night. He gets to bed at around 3 am, I get out of bed at 4.30 am. Seems to work...hahahaha...last day today.
GAL, what is your thread doing all the way in the back pages?! I could hardly find it and was worried!
I was thinking how proud you would be of me today! I stayed off the roller coaster. H was here from 11 am to 8 pm. I'll post more on my thread about it later but I noticed how distinctly detached I feel because I did not ML.
I tried my best to validate, etc. But I didn't fall apart and after he left, the boys and I interacted totally normally. A moment of clarity came over me -- hey! I'm not on the roller coaster! I didn't give in! Yay!
So...car racing thing sounds SO fun! I love that kind of thing.
Do you do Halloween in Australia?
Was the job interview this past week then?
Me54/H47 '08 H is "done" March '12 H moved out Brink of D, December '12 2014 totally reconciled! ...... "I firmly believe in the...absolute possibility of marriage renewal." Jim Conway
RH, Haven't posted here for a while 'cos there's not much to report. Still going along day by day. No major changes. Looking forward to cruising next week and hoping H can really enjoy himself without acting like a goose.
Had some friends over for dinner last night, he always talks constantly about himself and likes to big note. He's worse during MLC. I used to step in because I was embarassed for him. Now I just think that's his sh!t to deal with and stay out of it. Overall it was a nice night tho and felt a bit normal.
I'm so proud of you. You deserve to feel empowered and pleased with yourself. Once you've done it a few times you get better at it, then it becomes so natural you don't even think about it any more. Even so, I'm sorry that it has come to this. You and your boys' deserve so much more. I loved the story on your thread about your S19. What an amazing young man. You have raised him well. How could anyone in their right mind look that young man in the eyes and continue to go down the path of hurting the family. Proves just how mixed up these MLC'ers are.
The car racing event was fun, I was busy but still managed to watch some of the action. I'm waiting to hear back about the jobs. Keep your fingers crossed for me.
