5 months in

[Tessa2012]

For the record my W sees nothing wrong with their R, they r good friends etc etc. This is all script for an EA and is extremely destructive.

Re intimacy, it sounds v much like cake eating to me. Have u set boundaries?

Ur husband does sound v confused - have u researched MLC, there are some simiarities IMO. There is some great info in the MLC forum to help u understand. Its what keeps me from completely exploding with W.

Have u read the 37 rules? If not read them asap and memorise them.

How is ur detachment going?

Take care

Hi rkyfat73,

You're welcome. I really can relate to your sitch.

Like your wife, my H sees nothing wrong with their R. He keeps telling me that they've known each other longer than we have. The funny thing is that he hadn't been talking with her the whole time. They only reconnected as friends a couple of years ago. He doesn't think that matters.

As for intimacy, I know it's probably cake eating. I really haven't set any boundaries because I'm enjoying just as much as he is and I know that if, at this point, I try to tell him to stay away from OW that it'd backfire on me. Even though I'm trying to GAL, I'm not ready for it.

Thanks for suggesting the MLC area. I've read a couple of posts but I know that I should dig deeper into it. I'll definately take another look.

I've read the 37 rules once but I'll definately read them again. I've just saved them onto my laptop so I can refer to them frequently until their memorized.

Detachment is going alright...it's a slow process. I'm proud of myself because I haven't started conversations via text with him for about a week. I still find myself thinking about him but I'm trying not to act upon anything or let it get me down.

Personally, I've been reading more, reconnecting with my faith, hanging out with others and looking for a second job.

Thanks for your support. I appreciate it.

Best wishes.