W definitely had an attachment. He was actually someone I always feared would pop into her life. They had off and in teen Rs. Kind of like now. I've already experienced some venom, related to the whole D11 convo earlier. before she said she broke off, she made a comment about "what I am supposed to do, go back to a miserable marriage?". Fortunately I could tell this was not the true W I married or have seem occassionally lately. I broke a Samsung rule, and corrected her as she cited good times last week; and added that it wasn't solely my misguided love, or that M that was horrible, but that she was looking at everything from a skewed view too. Ok, so maybe more than 1 rule. I do justify, at least for now, b/c of some of the R talks we have had and she has admitted to seeing the good.
She's been hot & cold towards me thus far.
Anyways, I'm guessing there will be some contact, hopefully that fizzles sooner than later, and there us no more physical contact. Hopefully she gets in to see the IC. I will tread lightly. I will try to have patience. I will use that shield more frequently. I will continue to have a PMA, just need to not appear gloating. That should be ok. I will have to try hard not to comfort her during this time.
