I am in mediation with stbx about these matters at the moment.
He has gone very 'formal' on me since this has commenced and will now not go anywhere with me in public when the kids are present.
Hence no birthday dinners, no school events, no kids' sports.
In many ways, he now treats me as the 'enemy'. Which is weird as I am continuing to act as if, not pursue, do 180s, etc. All of these were working well for a while - until we started mediation.
In private, in our house, he is still pretty normal with me - chatty and nice, even. But total refusal to have anything to do with me outside of the home.
I think, too, that OW is putting added pressure on him to cut me out completely. She wants to be his public partner now and my presence makes that difficult.
His recent emails to me are written in a very adversarial, lawyerly tone. Obviously not composed by him. OW has recently been divorced herself and is used to writing court reports as part of her job.
I hope she's getting shrill and naggy!
Her recent experience with her Ex H was that he disappeared completely after the D. Moved interstate and started a family with new W (he and OW had no kids). OW got almost everything in the settlement (house, car, etc).
Dangerous precedent... she has filled my H's head with the idea that this is how D is. One's ex simply disappears, and there's little disruption to lifestyle and possessions.
