Hi tessa, popped over to say thx for ur comments on my sitch. Sorry u find urself here too!
Read ur sitch and oh boy the EA sounds so familiar. My W too admitted she got too involved with break up of OM marriage. She also said that he has been supporting her with our sitch, telling her she can do it on her own etc etc. Its a deadly cycle in IMO but I am powerless to stop it. Her thinking is so twisted she actually said she respects him because it must have been so tough for him to walk out on his W and 3 kids!!!! And how strong he is!!! And he seems to be repaying the favour by telling W how strong she is. Grrr. For the record my W sees nothing wrong with their R, they r good friends etc etc. This is all script for an EA and is extremely destructive.
Re intimacy, it sounds v much like cake eating to me. Have u set boundaries?
Ur husband does sound v confused - have u researched MLC, there are some simiarities IMO. There is some great info in the MLC forum to help u understand. Its what keeps me from completely exploding with W.
Have u read the 37 rules? If not read them asap and memorise them.
