As the boys were settling into bed one of my brothers (who just found out the whole sitch from my parents) called my H directed (for first time in his life, probably).
As first it seemed to be a calm\, but intense conversation. My B was apparently asking all the "right" hard questions...what opened the door for this OP to come into your life? ...why aren't you choosing to cut out comm w her and fight to save your family and M? ...what are your intentions now? ...how can you possilby leave your W after 20 years together & 3 boys?!
My H tried to explain how he's been unhappy "for so long"-- (again I can tell you it has been only about since when he mom was diagnosed w cancer- 1 1/2 yrs ago). And how last Jan I went into my "winter blues mode" where I was "nasty and as mean as I've ever been to him." At the same time this OP was being nice and listening to him. etc.etc. etc.
The conversation escalated and my B ended up yelling at him and telling him how disappointed he was and gave an ear ful. It didn't end well, in my H's opinion.
After the conversation my H cried and said "nobody who says they love me or is part of my family can support me for who I am and my decisions, unless I make the "right decisions". Meaning that he wants someone to tell him that what he is doing is okay & that as long as he is happy then that's the most important thing.
He doesn't understand that his selfish actions are impacting SO MANY OTHER PEOPLE's LIVES WHO LOVE HIM! ESP me and the BOYS!
He is so lost and confused and seems to be heading right into OW's arms in a matter of a short time...we'll see.
I need to write more, but have to help S9 carve his pumpkin!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
