We told the boys last evening...it was NOT fun. The two younger ones cried and I couldn't help but cry (not sobbing hysterically, but tears came despite my efforts to hold it together). My youngest son cried the most & clung to me like nobody's business. My middel son cried but asked some good, but tough questions like- why do you (daddy) need to move out to solve your problems?
My H told him he didn't know why but that being her (at home) was not helping him to solve his problems & that he needed his own space to help him think about things. That seemed to satisfy my son in the moment.
My oldest S13 said nothing/did not cry and didn't seem to react at all (although his demeanor was very serious).
I thought we did a decent job explaining the move out to them. My husband explained he hadn't been a good dad for a long time (at least a year), and that he hoped by not being here all the time that he would make a better effort to be more involved and "happier" to be around them. (A WAS excuse to leave so that he doesn't feel as guilty?)
At bedtime all the boys had a difficult time going to sleep. S9 cried and verbalized his worries and concerns--why can't he figure out his problems here? Who's going to get my breakfast in the morning? ...why does he have to leave at all? Very difficult questions 1 &3.
MIddle son took 4-ever to go to sleep-he was up until at least 11:30. S13 popped up twice (he usu goes right to sleep).
After "the talk" I had to go to my room & have a good cry before I could pull myself together again to sit and watch a movie w the boys. H tried to watch movie, but zoned out fairly quickly.
I would put this up there among the hardest things I've ever had to go through (w residule effects yet to come).
Quite frankly--it $ucked!
M- 18 T-21 S-14,11 & 10 BD 6-18-2012 (OW-EA) H moved out 11-3-2012 10-5-13 Me- I want a divorce. I want to move on w my life. 11-25-13 Jointly filed.
