I only saw my H yesterday for a few hours. He stopped by to do a few things around the house before he headed back to work at his side job and then go "home."
I was quite frustrated with him but was good and didn't show it or say anything. He had brought his laptop home to do some work on OWs new iPhone. Even though H says that they're not dating and just close friends (EA all the way) he had created an account for her on his laptop. He actually had her new phone with him and was working on it. He had created an itunes account for her and was syncing it.
He told me how she and her ex are still having issues and long story short...she stopped sharing the phone service with ex and got her own. Good for her...but she called MY H from the phone store and was going off about not knowing what phone to get and that she wanted the same one H has. So H got on the phone with the rep and explained what she wanted. The rep asked who "name" is and H said that it was her ex. Rep made a comment about OW not actually being crazy. H said no and to just get her what she wants and to get her out of the store. SMH
I don't get it. H mentioned (months ago) that he was tired of doing things to make everyone else happy and now he wanted to concentrate on making himself happy. Now it seems that he is more than willing to drop everything and help her so that she's happy. I know that he enjoys helping his friends but this seems like he's doing exactly what he told me he was tired of doing. I'm not 100% but it feels like she's using him for his good will and willingness to help a friend in need.
This OW is the same person that I warned my H about when he admitted to saying "I love you" when he ends a phone conversation with her. He ends his phone calls with his folks with ILY and he used to do it with me. I had told him that women take ILY a lot differently than men do. That ILY may mean something completely different to her than him. Of course, that was before I found out about the EA.
ARGH!!
I'm trying not to dwell. Just wanted to share and hopefully get your opinions.
Thanks.
PS - Successfully didn't bring up M, D or R this weekend. And we're still talking on friendly terms/topics.
Me39 H35 M8 T14 Early 5/12 H FB post re: his love for me. End 5/12 H done trying, writes "Dear John" letter 6/12 Wants D, calls ATTY, no file 1/13 Loves me, wants to try, moves home 3/13 Changes mind
