I think we agree on more then you think Denver. For me and my personality, once the affair happened I always felt that she was looking elsewhere.
For me, unless there is constant reasonable attention from the cheating spouse, in order to make me feel secure for a long time, it was doomed to fail.
They can't leave a question in your mind that they want you and only you. Security is just as important as trust. If not more important.
I will accept no less.
And to be completely honest, there are PLENTY of women out there that know how to make you feel like you're the only one. And everyone deserves that.
And I hope my X finds it too.
For me, there are no regrets. Some sadness that it didn't last, but no regrets.
But would I ever go back? Not in a million years.
M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012