So more questions that are rolling around in my head this morning. Since W is leaving and I think I need to change my game plan to LRT. I need to stand up for myself and not be afraid of doing something wrong to where I push W away because she is leaving. But I do not want to go to far and be a jerk or A$$hole where she will not want to come back..
How should I handle money? Should I completely cut her off? Should I offer to help her? She does not make enough with her new job to survive on her own yet. She is moving in with her parents for now.
What type of healthy boundaries should I set? Should I allow her to come home whenever, like for dinner on weeknights? What if she offers to help around house like cook, clean or shopping? Do I say we dont need your help to show her that I am strong? When I really do need help.
Basically I want to be strong but not in away that will close the door for future reconciling. I think I should try to be her best friend and help if she asks, but not offer help unless she asks. So not to appear as controlling or pleading. Also I do not want to do something where she will use it against me if we divorce. Trying to cover my butt when I am scared to death of future...
